Sunday, September 21, 2014

Our youth in the African American Community

Just the other day I heard one of our youth, young African american male, who stated that the current generation is "fucked up". So I sat back and thought about that for a moment. Some of the questions that I had asked myself was, why is that? Do I agree? Who is it affecting? And how can we as a community change that if it is possible? The answers to all those questions began to become clearer merely because of the classes I had took when obtaining my B.A in Criminal Justice. Do I agree with this young mans statement? To a certain point I do. This is because I have teenage children myself and some of the stories and conversations that I have with them and there friends or even the ones I over hear them having begins me to question who is educating them and instilling these aspects of life within them. There are any contributing factors to why our generation is in the state that it is, mostly because of peer influences, lack of adult supervision, the availability of drugs, alcohol. and illegal weapons, all of which can only be provided by another adult most of the time. Dropping out of high school, having sex, spreading STD's, killing one another. All things that our youth should be taught about not be exposed to.

Little girls are wearing things that are too revealing, sex-ting and being exposed over the internet for everyone to see, little boys are having sex with whom ever where ever, leaving trails of babies and diseases, etc. And by this time most parents have no idea of what is taking place because the situations are too far gone and they are now too afraid of telling their guardians so they hold it in. It is time for parents to step up and take our places as parents, not as our child's friend, or weed smoking buddy, or drinking buddy, or having the mentality that as long as they are doing it in your home with you that it is ok because it is not ok. The lack of supervision is a major contributing factor but most have yet to see it because parents themselves are to wrapped up in twerking, clubbing, having multiply sleeping partners. doing drugs and alcohol, not caring if their child finishes school and have plans to continue on to college or not, etc.

We can not be on the same level as our children, we have to be on one that is higher, if not they will begin to loose respect towards their parents or anyone one of authority. Which is what I believe is taking place now. Among the obvious that I have briefly touched on, this topic is so huge there is so much more that can be discussed...... but for now let this small bit marinate and let's figure out where we went wrong and how we can help out one another....

Monday, September 1, 2014

Single parenting....

Some households these days are ran by single parents. On a negative side there is a certain percentage of individuals who truly believe that a child who is a product of a single parent household are those children who have behavioral issues, join gangs, drop out of school, sell drugs, become teenage parents, and so on. But I believe that the question to be asked is, what is now to be considered the norm in society? A single parent household, or a two parent household? 

HHmmmm, good question right? Or what about which household is more stable to raise a child? They are actually two in the same. In reality, children who are born in a stable single parent home does just as well as those in a married household when it comes down to academic ability and behavioral problems. We have come to a point in time where it no longer matters too which household a child is raised in, it is no longer a factor in distinguishing the individuals family structure and stability. 

A two parent household can bring along just as much stress, pain, and misery to a child and their development as one being brought up with one parent. I myself was raised in a single parent home along with my brothers and despite the odds that may have been stacked up against us we never became apart of any statistics. My inner circle of family and friends consist of single mothers, independent women raising children alone. Women of many different ethnic backgrounds, women who made the decision not to give up but to fight back in hopes for a different outlook that society would have on them, women with degrees and careers, who have alone put their children through college, or who have encouraged their child to do great things.

True single parenting can get discouraging at times, and you may feel as though you want to give up, but hang in there and know that you are not in that struggle alone. Take comfort in the fact that whether it is a single parent or a married couple raising children ALL struggles are the same and each child in each situation can turn out one in the same or even different despite their home circumstances. People will have their opinions, but the important thing is that their opinion is just theirs and does not matter. Stay strong and continue to do just what you are doing, with faith, courage, and prayer all will continue to work in your favor. <3